The coincidence of my post from this past Saturday, How to Show Loved One's You Care, was written before I knew I would be taking my grandparents to a funeral. I had casually mentioned that many people my age are starting to or have already lost their grandparents, and in some cases their parents. I figure the timing is right for this post.
One aspect of the funeral from the weekend was sharing a few funny stories about the woman who had passed. It allowed everyone who didn't know her well to get an idea of her life, and it reminded those who were close with her to remember the great times they had with her.
Grieve not, nor speak of me with tears, but laugh and talk of me as if I were beside you there. - Isla Paschal Richardson
One way I am going to plan ahead, and take time to think about them in the present, is to write down some of my favorite stories and moments. Another great idea is to have favorite bible verses, poems, songs, or other meaningful things about the person.
To some people, this is a very sensitive subject and difficult to do when you are thinking about someone who is still alive dieing. Try to think of it this way....if you compile these things now you are getting to know the person better as they live not just planing for their death. Many people participate in emergency preparations for power outages, storms, disasters, and other situations that may or may not happen soon. I think of this as a different type of emergency preparation. To someone grieving, it is an emergency, and thinking clearly isn't usually possible.
To live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die. -Thomas Campbell